These girls right here? They made my wedding day (and all the moments leading up to it) so. much. fun. It’s the task of every bridesmaid team out there, but at times it can be a little confusing to navigate your role as a ‘maid. How do I stay in touch with the other girls? What should I do with my hair? What type of jewelry should I wear? We’ve got you covered with these 10 FAQs—a must read for both bridesmaids and brides alike!
1. WHO ARE THE OTHER BRIDESMAIDS AND HOW SHOULD WE STAY IN TOUCH?
The Bride will usually introduce you to everyone (if you don't know them already!). After that, coming up with a few sources of communication is a must, whether it's email, social media or a wedding apps that let you all stay in touch and plan a wonderful wedding experience for the Bride-to-be!
2. WHAT SHOULD I DO FOR HAIR AND MAKEUP?
Whether the Bride has a stylist lined up or not, make sure to have this convo with her and the other 'maids. The Bride will usually give you a bit of direction (all up or down, no bright lipstick), but you want to make sure you're not upstaging her! Something simple and sweet usually does the trick.
3. CAN I CHOOSE MY OWN SHOES AND ACCESSORIES?
In most cases, the Bride will want you to feel comfortable and leave the choice up to you, but it's always a good idea to ask! If she isn't strict on having everyone match up, you should all agree on a similar style that fits and the wedding. For example, neutral shoes and classic pearls for a classic affair.
4. SHOULD I OFFER INPUT ON THE BRIDESMAIDS' DRESS SELECTION?
You don't want to overstep your boundaries, so feel out the Bride first. This will usually be a conversation between all bridesmaids and the Bride and you'll quickly know if she has a clear direction or if she wants your input. Either way, be open to what she wants and make small suggestions that you think will be a great balance for the wedding style and each bridesmaid.
5. HOW MUCH WILL MY DRESS COST AND DO I PAY FOR IT?
The average cost of a bridesmaid dress is $150 + alterations. There are also a handful of bridesmaid dress rental sites out there to choose from for a fraction of the cost. Bridesmaids generally cover the cost of their own dress. If you're worried about the price, express your concerns to the Bride before the dress search, so she can stick within a reasonable budget that works for everyone.
6. DO I HAVE TO GO TO EVERYTHING?
Not every single bridesmaid always lives close by, so making every event (dress fitting, luncheons, shower, bachelorette, etc.) can be tough! The most important thing is to be there for the Bride her on Big Day. Don't stress if you have to miss some of the events leading up to it. Let the Bride know in advance if you can't make an event and offer to help in any way so you can be there in spirit!
7. WHAT SHOULD I WEAR TO THE REHEARSAL DINNER?
Make sure to ask in advance so you have plenty of time to plan your outfit. From casual clambakes to black tie affairs, rehearsal dinners have such a wide range. You don't want to show up in shorts and a flip flops when everyone else is wearing evening gowns, or vice versa!
8. WHAT DO I NEED TO DO FOR THE BRIDAL SHOWER/BACHELORETTE?
The Maid of Honor usually takes lead on the organization and planning, but that doesn't mean you should kick back and relax! The MOH has a BIG job, so do your part and constantly check in with her to see what she needs your help with. She'll so appreciate it!
9. DO I NEED TO PREPARE A SPEECH?
Generally, only the Maid of Honor makes a speech. It's always best to cover your bases and check with the Bride to see if she'd like you and the other bridesmaids to say a few words.
10. HOW CAN I BE SUPPORTIVE ON THE BIG DAY?
Be there for anything and everything. From making sure her glass of bubbly is always full to bustling her dress to taming a rogue curl, be there to make this the happiest day of her life and share in her excitement!